Facesitting: A Dominant Act of Intimacy and Control
Facesitting, also known as queening or smothering, is a popular BDSM practice where the dominant partner sits on the submissive’s face. This act emphasizes control and intimacy, often combining elements of body worship and oral servitude. In this article, we explore the appeal, dynamics, and rituals of facesitting, along with tips on how to safely incorporate it into a BDSM relationship.
The Appeal of Facesitting
Facesitting is appealing for many within the BDSM community due to its powerful display of dominance and submission. For the dominant partner, it offers a heightened sense of control, as they literally place themselves above the submissive. For the submissive, it can represent vulnerability, obedience, and devotion, providing a unique way to express their submission. Facesitting also enhances physical intimacy, creating a close connection between partners and allowing the submissive to focus solely on pleasing the dominant.
Rituals of Facesitting
Facesitting can be performed in various ways, including facing forward or backward, depending on preference. The dominant partner may choose to engage in this act with full body weight or partially support themselves to adjust the intensity. Submissives often take a prone or lying-down position to allow the dominant partner to sit comfortably. Adding elements like blindfolds, restraints, or verbal commands can enhance the submissive's experience, increasing their sense of vulnerability and heightening the dynamic between partners.
The Dominant’s Role in Facesitting
During facesitting, the dominant partner takes an active role in guiding the experience. They may use verbal encouragement, gentle movements, or physical positioning to direct the submissive’s actions. Some dominants may choose to incorporate elements of humiliation or praise, which reinforces the submissive's feelings of devotion. The dominant has full control over the intensity and duration of the experience, making facesitting a powerful way to assert authority while engaging in an intimate act.
Incorporating Facesitting into Your BDSM Dynamic
To introduce facesitting into a BDSM relationship, open communication is essential. Discussing desires, boundaries, and comfort levels beforehand helps ensure that both partners feel safe and respected. Facesitting can be practiced as a standalone activity or integrated into other BDSM scenes, depending on the dynamic between partners. Establishing clear boundaries and safe words allows both partners to engage in facesitting in a way that feels satisfying and consensual.
Safety and Consent in Facesitting
Facesitting requires attention to safety, as it involves restricted breathing and physical closeness. Partners should agree on safe words or hand signals to ensure the submissive can pause or adjust as needed. The dominant should be mindful of their partner’s comfort, allowing breaks as necessary. Proper hygiene is also important to ensure a comfortable and enjoyable experience. Aftercare provides a valuable opportunity for both partners to reconnect, discuss the experience, and share feedback, reinforcing the intimacy created through facesitting.
