How to Give a Good Blow Job
One of the most well-known sex acts, blowjobs can be an intimidating challenge in the bedroom. But, giving head can actually be sexy and fun for your partner and for you.
If you’re wondering how to give a bj that will please both of you, we’ve got you covered. We’ve put together this simple guide on how to give the perfect blowjob so you can take your oral sex skills to the next level.
From what a bj actually is, to tips and tricks, we’ll help you learn how to give an amazing blowjob that will blow (pun intended) their mind. So, if you’re ready to become a bj pro, keep reading!
A blowjob is an oral sex act that involves one person using their mouth and tongue to suck their partner’s penis and deliver some seriously pleasurable sensations. Referred to by many names, including fellatio, bj, blowie or giving head, blowjobs can be enjoyed as part of foreplay or as the main event. You can even give a blowjob to a dildo or strap-on for some steamy visuals that your partner can enjoy.
Why is it called a blowjob?
Despite its name, a blowjob has nothing to do with blowing. Instead, it involves a combination of licking and sucking, using your mouth and tongue to stimulate your partner’s penis. There are lots of theories about where the name comes from, but our favourite is that it’s a shortening of the Victorian phrase ‘below-job’ (makes sense, right?). They don’t teach you that in school…
What does a blowjob feel like?
The penis is a super sensitive erogenous zone, full of tingly nerve endings. When stimulated by your mouth and tongue, these nerve endings can deliver intense pleasure to your partner and make them feel fantastic.
Why do men like blow jobs?
Blow jobs feel good for men and people with penises because they stimulate such a sensitive area. Also, unlike a handjob, your partner can’t easily replicate the feeling themselves, making it extra exciting when you go down there. Blowjobs can also make some men and penis-owners orgasm and they may prefer to cum this way.
How to give the best blowjob
So, now you know what a blowjob is, it’s time to learn how to give good head.
When it comes to bjs, different people and bodies like different things, so it’s always a good idea to check in with your partner before it gets hot and heavy. They know their body best and can tell you what they’re into (and what they’re not into). This way, you’ll avoid those awkward moments and can find out how to make them feel amazing.
When you’ve both decided it’s time to give oral a go, here are our top 10 blowjob tips:
1. Show that you’re enjoying it
Before you even start, the best way to give a blow job is to actually want to do it. Like any sex act, a blowjob is only fun if both partners are into it. And, if you are enjoying it, make sure to let your partner know! You can do this by looking up at your partner, taking your time or telling them how much it’s turning you on.
2. Set the pace
Like when you give a handjob, setting a consistent speed and pace is a great way to start. Drive your partner wild by switching things up and keeping them guessing. Start slow, then gradually get faster to build the anticipation.
3. Use your hands
You don’t have to use just your mouth to give a good blowjob. When you’re ready to get things going, start gently with your hands to get your partner in the mood. You can also use your hands at the base of the penis for some grip as you move your mouth up and down the shaft.
4. Switch up your positions
To keep things interesting, try changing up your and your partner’s position. Have your partner sit on the edge of the bed/sofa, and then get on your knees. Or, you could try a classic 69 position for some delicious mutual stimulation.
5. Don’t stop when they’re coming
When your partner is close to the big ‘O’, it may be tempting to take a backseat and let them enjoy the ride. Instead of stopping, try slowing down and using gentle movements to keep the momentum going and help your partner cross the finish line.
6. Make eye contact
Want to turn up the heat? Making eye contact can make your blowjob feel even more intimate and enjoyable for you and your partner. Take your partner’s penis in your mouth and slowly look up to push them over the edge.
7. Make noise
So, we already know that showing enthusiasm is the best way to give a blow job, and what better way to show you’re having a good time than making some noise. Use your breath, moan or try a little dirty talk to set the mood.
8. Explore other areas
Just like changing your speed, using your hands and mouth to explore other parts of your partner’s body can add another layer to the experience. Try stroking and licking their balls and licking their thighs, paying attention to other sensitive and erogenous zones can really turn your partner on.
9. Communicate
The best way to find out how to please your partner is to get them talking. Ask them what they enjoy before and during to ensure you’re putting their pleasure first. If they’re feeling a little shy, you can also listen to their breathing (and any noises they make) to get a sense of what’s working and what’s not.
